Last week I spoke with one of my lovely friends. She is one of my fellow birth mothers, and she was really having a bit of a rough week. She is only a few months post placement, and has been struggling with adoption consuming her life. I told her that I understand how all-consuming that BirthMother label can be. I challenged her to think about all of the things that make up who she is. Her hobbies, her interests, her background, her heritage... all of the little things that make her who she is. And she did an amazing job on her blog post. I told her that I would do the same... talk about all of the things that make me so much more than "Just" anything :)
I am not just a birthmom... I am also the mother to a precious little girl who is my entire world... every day she does something that makes me laugh or smile, even when I'm having the worst days.
I am not just a birthmom... I am a singer. I love music. I love to learn new songs, and love filling my heart with music.
I am not just a birthmom... I am an artsy craftsy chick. I like to sew, knit, and other random arts and crafts. I'm not particularly wonderful at any one of them, but I am fairly decent with many :)
I am not just a birthmom... I am a Christian. I love my Savior with all of my heart, and strive to walk in His footsteps every single day.
I am not just a birthmom... I am a proud truckers kid. My daddy has been a trucker my entire life, and has been a shining example to his children of what persistence and dedication look like. He has never given up on us, and has always done his best to provide for his family. My daddy taught me that no matter what, he will always love us, and is always there for us. He taught me that no matter what, never give up. Plus--How cool is it to have a dad who has traveled to every state in the continental US, hauled trucks for the circus, for monsters inc on ice, for cirque du soleil, and for ACDC!!!!! Plus, there was that Christmas season where I got to ride in the truck with him, and we got stuck behind a Christmas parade... right behind Santa and we were in a big red truck!
I am not just a birthmom... I'm a daughter. I love my mom. She has always been there for me, and has always been ready with open arms and a hug. She taught me to be thrifty and crafty both... Even though sometimes those two are mutually exclusive.....
I am not just a birthmom... I'm a sister. I love my little brother. Ok. My younger brother. Kiddo isn't so little anymore.... Nope. He's a bike riding gamer that is completely idolized by Mini-Me! NO ONE is allowed to mess with my brother... except me of course :p
I am not just a birthmom... I'm a girl who is borderline obsessed with faeries. I love faeries. I collect them. I refuse to listen to anyone who tries to convince me that they do not exist! I do believe in magic! I do!
I am not just a birthmom... I'm a girl who loves being up a tree whenever she can be. I absolutely LOVE being up a tree. There is something so peaceful about it.... and Mini-Me is following in my footsteps... slowly but surely.
So I am not JUST a birthmom... I am so much more. And for all of you who get stuck in the "just a..." spot? Whether it has to do with work, parenting, being a birth mother, etc.... You are so much more than "JUST" anything. I love you all :)
~Tabitha